How to do less than 110%

I’ve had self-acceptance on the brain! In addition to my recent personal reflection on perfectionism, I wanted to offer some tangible support for anyone dealing with their own perfectionism or supporting someone else with this challenge.

Here are a few…

Things to explore in a journal, through art, or with someone you trust:

• What does perfectionism look like in your daily life? What does it make you do, or avoid doing?

• Who taught you to be perfect? Where do you think it come from?

• What do you most fear, if you or your work are imperfect? 

• What’s at stake for you with this? 

• What is your perfectionism costing you? 

• What do you stand to gain if you break free? 

• What does “good enough” look like?

Actions to take:

• Be imperfect on purpose.

  • Choose a low-risk project or task and make a point to complete it at 80%. 

  • Make a mess or an intentional mistake.

  • What did you fear? What actually happened? 

• Explore the joy of being an absolute beginner, and try something new.

• Give your inner critic a name, thank her for her concern, and send her on her way.

All of this takes time, patience, and practice. Hang in there for a long, but worthwhile climb. And remember, you don’t have to do any of this perfectly! Just keep putting the next foot down on your path.

Allow me to introduce my inner critic, Tracy Flick. She is very committed and needs a vacation!