The shining word "and"

Shout outs (plural) to Fire Island…as salute to Pride, because it’s delightful, because YES to queer and AAPI representation, and because the story teaches that “serious” and “silly” don’t have to be fixed identities.

I struggle with this sometimes: It can seem insensitive to be lighthearted, when there is so much trouble in the world. And, yes, toxic positivity is a problem. However, we also need fun, or I do at least. It’s a release and a prism that reveals color and possibility. To hold these ideas in balance, I’m trying to embrace what Richard Rohr calls the “shining word ‘and.’”

(Richard Rohr is a Christian contemplative, Fransciscan friar, and ecumenical teacher.)

The Shining Word “And”
by Richard Rohr
“And” teaches us to say yes
“And” allows us to be both-and
“And” keeps us from either-or
“And” teaches us to be patient and long suffering
“And” is willing to wait for insight and integration
“And” keeps us from dualistic thinking
“And” does not divide the field of the moment
“And” helps us to live in the always imperfect now
“And” keeps us inclusive and compassionate toward everything
“And” insists that our action is also contemplative
“And” heals our racism, sexism, heterosexism, and classism
“And” allows us to critique both sides of things
“And” allows us to enjoy both sides of things
“And” is far beyond any one nation or political party
“And” helps us face and accept our own shadow side
“And” allows us to ask for forgiveness and to apologize
“And” is the mystery of the paradox in all things
“And” is the way of mercy
“And” makes daily, practical love possible
“And” does not trust love if it is not also justice
“And” does not trust justice if it is not also love
“And” is far beyond my religion versus your religion
“And” allows us to be both distinct and yet united
“And” is the very Mystery of Trinity